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wraithfodderI've been pretty absent on LJ this past year, mostly due to co-sharing caregiving duties for my elderly mother. Sigh, last Monday very early in the morning, my mother woke up, as she was prone to do but this time she fell and struck her head. EMS took her to the hospital but after the CAT scan, she never woke up. She died several hours later of brain trauma, and there was nothing they could do. Fortunately she was on a morphine drip so she passed away peacefully, with nice music playing on the ER TV... Ironically she passed away almost to the day that Rory, our dog, died last year. They were constant companions.
So, it's only been now I've really gotten back on the computer, with the exception (one tweet) and doing bills, emailing folks about the memorial service, which was very lovely. Had she been alive, I know she would have said so. Still pretty sad, and the house is so quiet without her. I feel sort of empty... and there's so much to do. My mother was a hoarder, but not hideously like that show. She was neat, but not so much toward the end (Alzheimer's, which is a horrible disease) but she saved a lot of stuff. In going through her drawers I found a shirt made in "British Hong Kong"! I'm thinking the packrat thing must be genetic since I save way too much stuff too.
Tha'ts it for now.
So, it's only been now I've really gotten back on the computer, with the exception (one tweet) and doing bills, emailing folks about the memorial service, which was very lovely. Had she been alive, I know she would have said so. Still pretty sad, and the house is so quiet without her. I feel sort of empty... and there's so much to do. My mother was a hoarder, but not hideously like that show. She was neat, but not so much toward the end (Alzheimer's, which is a horrible disease) but she saved a lot of stuff. In going through her drawers I found a shirt made in "British Hong Kong"! I'm thinking the packrat thing must be genetic since I save way too much stuff too.
Tha'ts it for now.
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Date: 2011-12-05 08:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-12-05 11:26 pm (UTC)I am so sorry. Praying for you.
((((((Huggles))))))
I know the struggles you've had. Miss you, dear, and praying for you. Don't know what else to say.
(((((Huggles))))))
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Date: 2011-12-06 12:01 am (UTC)My Condolences
Date: 2011-12-06 12:49 am (UTC)June
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Date: 2011-12-06 01:59 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-12-06 02:26 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-12-06 04:00 am (UTC)I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. I lost my dad nearly three years ago. It's been tough but life does go on. Holidays are hard to celebrate. I still have my mom and she has her health. My sister and I try and make sure our mom gets out and enjoys life. It's tough to feel good again. It does happen. Time will ease the pain. When you are ready, you will feel good. Take care of yourself.
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Date: 2011-12-06 04:18 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-12-06 05:33 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-12-07 07:22 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-12-07 11:55 am (UTC)re: Sad :(
Date: 2011-12-08 07:56 am (UTC)We lost Becky's dad to Alzheimers 5 years ago, and my dad is slowly descending into it right now, so we know how bad the slow disappearance of a loved one can be. But the shock of them being gone is still hard to deal with, especially here at this time of the year, when so many folks are susceptible to higher and lower-than-normal emotional highs and lows.
Please take good care of yourself right now. And, though you've got to deal with your mom's "stuff", don't let it bring you down too much. Hopefully, the good memories will outweigh the bad...
(long distance *hug*)
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Date: 2011-12-08 02:49 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-12-10 11:45 am (UTC)I can only advise you as others have advised us, don't make any major decisions for 6 months. You need the time to deal
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Date: 2011-12-11 07:03 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-12-19 08:43 pm (UTC)Peace to your mom, and the comfort of memories and love to you and your family.
*hug*
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Date: 2011-12-24 03:04 pm (UTC)